There has been a recurring theme lately among my friends. Being GOOD ENOUGH. It seems as though our culture admires and creates high achievers . We applaud and idolize them. Our lives are geared towards more, better, bigger,nicer And not just in material possessions….but personal achievements, promotions, even ‘enlightenment’.
Lots of competition. I’m not speaking of co workers , neighbors and friends. Lots of competition with ourselves.
What happens when we stop trying to be ‘better’?
Are we left feeling somehow less than? Not good enough?
What if we stop internalizing the message that we NEED to be more than we are?
It’s a subtle message. But is it ever persuasive .
We are good enough just the way we are.(yes,stealing that from Bridget Jones)
I have been on this path for quite a few years. When friends ask me about what I do/believe, I find myself getting very verbose and I start to ramble. At some point I tend to lose my audience. Its a lot to take in and understand. And to be honest, if I had no background with energy work, I would be completely lost too.
If you are trying to understand energy and find yourself lost, I would suggest starting out with baby steps. You can read all you want, and it depends on how you learn, but (at least for me) ‘knowing ’ something versus ‘getting’ something are worlds apart.
The Aha moment.
I read a ton on energy and yes, it made sense. I understood. I learned. But it wasn’t until I experienced it that I really GOT it.And then after that the learning curve really shortened!
A great beginning is learning and then experiencing how to ground.
There are many ways to ground, probably as many as people, this is the way I was taught.
GET INTO A COMFORTABLE POSITION AND TAKE A FEW DEEP, CLEARING BREATHS. WHEN YOU FEEL YOUR BREATH DEEPEN AND BECOME STEADY, IMAGINE TWO RED BALLS ABOUT TWO FEET BELOW THE GROUND. REALLY SEE THEM, SEE THEIR COLOR, IS IT MORE RED OR MORE ORANGE. SEE THE TEXTURE, ARE THEY RUBBER OR ARE THEY SMOOTHER AND SHINY? NOW VISUALIZE YOUR FEET CONNECTING TO THE RED BALLS WITH ROOTS, A BEAUTIFUL GOLD THREAD OR ANY OTHER IMAGE THAT WORKS FOR YOU. DON’T WORRY IF YOU ARE LYING DOWN VERSUS SITTING DOWN, THE PHYSICS OF HOW THESE BALLS CAN CONNECT TO YOUR FEET ARE A MOTE POINT. JUST GO WITH IT!
IN A MOMENT OR TWO YOU SHOULD START TO FEEL YOUR FEET TINGLE. YOU ARE GROUNDING RIGHT NOW, IN OTHER WORDS, CONNECTING TO THE ENERGY OF THE EARTH. THIS IS GOOD!
THIS IS GROUNDING. IF YOU GET INTO THE HABIT OF PRACTICING THIS WHENEVER YOU FEEL OVER WHELMED BY EMOTION, YOURS OR OTHERS, SITUATIONS OR EVENTS…..YOU WILL DEVELOP THE ABILITY TO SEE YOURSELF AS APART FROM EMOTIONS AND EVENTS. WHEN YOU GROUND, YOU CONNECT TO THE ENERGY OF THE EARTH. YOU ARE THEN CONNECTED TO AN ENERGY THAT IS A GREATER AND HIGHER VIBRATION THAN YOURSELF, SO WHEN YOU ARE FEELING OVERWHELMED BY EMOTIONS, FEELING OR EVENTS, YOU CAN START TO SEE, ONCE CONNECTED TO THE EARTHS ENERGY, THAT YOU ARE NOT THE EMOTIONS, FEELINGS OR EVENTS THAT YOU ARE EXPERIENCING AND WILL BE ABLE TO LET THE EMOTIONS/FEELINGS JUST FLOW THROUGH YOU. OVER TIME, THIS GROUNDING WILL BE AN AUTOMATIC HABIT TO EVENTS.
This experiencing grounding and a stepping aside from entangling your sense of self with your feelings is a powerful experiencing of energy. It is a great place to start, it might provide you with your own “Aha” moment!
Find your Tribe
tribe (traɪb) — n1.a social division of a people, esp of a
preliterate people, definedin terms of common descent, territory,
culture, etc2.an ethnic or ancestral division of ancient cultures,
esp of oneof the following a. any of the three divisions of the
ancient Romans, the Latins,Sabines, and Etruscans b. one of the
later political divisions of the Roman people c. any of the 12
divisions of ancient Israel, each of which wasnamed after and
believed to be descended from one of the 12patriarchs d. a phyle
of ancient Greece3.informal , jocular often a. a large number of
persons, animals, etc b. a specific class or group of persons c. a
family, esp a large one4.biology a taxonomic group that is a
subdivision of a subfamily5.stockbreeding a strain of animals
descended from a commonfemale ancestor through the female
line [C13: from Latin tribus ; probably related to Latin trēs three]
When I hear the word “Tribe” many different pictures collide in my head. A generic indigenous tribe from national geographic, my family, even my favorite brand of Hummus…..but what always jumps up tot he forefront when I hear the word Tribe is my peeps….the group of people I have studied Shamanism with over the last 6 years or so. And no, not in any New Age adopting Native energy, titles and labels….but MY PEOPLE.
On Facebook a few days ago a conversation took off over love, the energy behind it, the push and pull of romantic love, the idea that if and when you evolve spiritually you will be able to directly access divine love and will not then need the validation of earthly love (Ha, and I thought Face book was mostly for political tirades and pictures of kittens…go figure!) A very interesting part of this conversation ended up being between a woman who was adamant in her belief that earthly love brings you closer to divine love and the two can and should co habit & the idea that earthly love is at the core, an energy exchange and once you master coordination your own and others energy, then there is no need for earthly love as a tie to one particular person since you will have access to the energy of divine love of creator and there will be no need for validation thru an exchange of energy this way.
I got both points. I tended to veer more towards the “everything is energy “school of thought since that is what I learned, found to be true and use in my own life and practice.
HOWEVER…I am a foolish romantic at heart and still cherish the “happily ever after” idea of soul mates and twin flames (ok, I don’t believe in twin flames, but I LOVE the IDEA of them)
So after adding a whiney post (the conversation in my opinion was getting way too filled with big long words, I like to keep things real!) where I basically asked if it was possible to have a romantic relationship where it isnt a validation thru an energy exchange and a true partnership in the highest sense of the word. One of my Peeps Erik wrote the following….
“lol, you’ll get it my friend. when you find a companion where the two of you have things in common and can accept the baggage that each one of you have, then you can both love and give devotion and service to each other, Not a dependent ro co-dependent relationship, but a relationship that cheers each other on and hopefully towards ascension. Even some of the baggage becomes a lesson on inner growth. ”
My first (disgruntled) thought was ” Hey, I HAVE that already, with my tribe!” (I want my romance!)
My tribe is filled with people who I see both often (Bety, Steve, Cate) and not so often (Kim, Maia Rose, Bindy), who come and go, the membership here is very fluid.
I love them to pieces after seeing them 3x a week or not for a whole year. We can always take up just where we left off.
I know their issues, I respect them, I do not force them to confront what they are not yet ready to, nor do I baby them and tell them what I think they want to hear. I cheer their victories and I mourn their losses with them. I do not try to make their lives better, just as they do not try to make mine better. Our lives are better just because we are involved in each others.
My peeps let me make my mistakes, for they see the big picture in how my choices alternately push and pull me on my path.
And I let them make their mistakes. Knowing how hard it is to watch the people I love struggle with difficulties, I admire them for letting me solve my own problems and confront my own issues without stepping in to ‘save’ me. I know, and they know that lessons are only learned when you are the one doing the learning!
My Tribe also knows and admires my strengths and we can all see how each individuals strength only adds to the strength of the tribe as a whole
Some people in your life will disrespect your strength if it is perceived as a threat to them . My Peeps are not threatened by me, nor I by them. There is no room for hidden agendas in our tribe. To be threatened is to be fearful, and we live by the adage that the Truth is never threatened. We strive to act out of love andnot react out of fear.
But we are human and when we do react or become fearful, we all understand because we have all been there. It does not culminate in a push and pull of wills, words and fears……………
So my wish for you dear readers is to find your tribe.